‘When you are grown up
and have children of your own
do please remember
something very important
a stodgy parent is
no fun at all
What a child wants
is a parent who is
‘Some people never celebrate anything. They have no time. … Some feel there is nothing to celebrate. Such people are prisoners who slog away in a secure and predictable routine.’**
Life is best in complexity, not when we make it complicated.
I don’t hanker after tomorrow, or even a different today but I will look for opportunities to bring my imagination to this day because it really is the best day of all. When I do this then the day gets sparky. When I leave my imagination behind then the day becomes stodgy and complicated.
To discover the identity of our own imagination will require our disconnection. I’m struck by how the early Jesuits would send their apprentices into 30 days of isolation so they would better identify the thing they must do with their lives.^
Sherry Turkle identifies the tethered world that begins for children when they are allowed a mobile phone so they can be in touch with their parents. Not only does this tether them to their parents but also to their peers. I wonder whether it’s possible to hear the whispers of our lives – who and what we most want to be – when we are never alone for any considerable period of time:
‘Traditional views of adolescent development take autonomy and strong personal boundaries as reliable signs of a successfully maturing self.’^^
When we notice what we already have and develop this further then we get to be sparky people. Every day.
And then, because you must, shine.
(*From Roald Dahl’s Danny the Champion of the World.)
(**From John O’Donohue’s Eternal Echoes.)
(^See Chris Lowney’s Heroic Leadership.
(^^From Sherry Turkle’s Alone Together.)