May you never be isolated but know the embrace
Of your anam cara.*
You have a squad, but it’s small and not everyone in your squad is going to agree or do the same thing. But, truthfully, you hate those kind of squads anyway.**
As I complete an online workshop, one of the things I want to do is connect with a handful of people from among the thousands that have been involved, to talk slowly into the new year about the things we’re trying to make happen.
Anam cara is Gaelic for soul friend, the kind of person who gets what we’re about. They may be quite unlike us but that’s an important feature in this tribe.
A lot of what we will be doing will find us on our own, but to know there’s a group of people who understand this and are there for us, is huge.
Brené Brown shares this interesting conversation between Maya Angelou and Bill Moyers:
‘MOYERS: Do you belong anywhere?
ANGELOU: I haven’t yet.
MOYERS: Do you belong to anyone?
ANGELOU: More and more. I mean, I belong to myself. I’m very proud of that. I am very concerned about how I look at Maya. I like Maya very much. I like the humour and courage very much. And when I find myself acting in a way that isn’t … that doesn’t please – then I have to deal with that.’**
As we journey into 2019, may we be faithful to who we are and what we must do.
But know there are others out there who would be there for you, if they could be, encouraging you on and thankful for your encouragement of them. They’re not “yes people” but they are your tribe, trying to make some kind of dint in the world’s you are.
We don’t go into the new year alone; perhaps finding one another is one of the things the year will include for us.