covenants and technology


‘We are all cyborgs now.’*

‘[W]hen you expose yourself to the opportunities that scare you, you create something others won’t do.’**

The year is 1996.  Sherry Turkle is noticing researchers moving around Massachusetts Institute of Technology wearing gadgets which allow them to be constantly connected to the internet – describing themselves as cyborgs.  Some even report that this cyborg-state allows them to feel a “better person.”

Now we have smartphones and we are all cyborgs.  Now we can be connected to everything, everywhere, all the time but I can’t help but think this connectivity is less than we imagine it to be.  I don’t see us giving up our technology but I do imagine us adding more to it.

There’s an older form of connectivity.  It comes in the form of a covenant in which people agree to work together in a deeply connected way for the good of each other – covenants often include sacrifice from both parties.  The primal covenant, however, is the one we make with ourselves.

‘The most sustainable Musts happen slowly, thoughtfully and quietly.  They don’t happen impulsively but are built with a soner, calm, intention.’^

The covenant we establish with ourselves has zing to it.  We feel the electricity.  It involves something that excites us and we’re prepared to sacrifice for.  When we have forged this covenant with ourselves then we’re ready to covenant with others, finding electricity there too.

Technology can never replace this experience, though, it can support it.

(*From Sherry Turkle’s Alone Together.)
(**From Seth Godin’s Whatcha Gonna Do With That Duck?)
(^From Elle Luna’s The Crossroads of Should and Must.)



‘Must needs solitude.’*

‘We don’t get to know who we are because we’re not listening.’**

We all need a space in which we can be open to more can happen.

My “I-in-Me” world is too small and I need some place to grow.  Beyond the noise and technology, here I can simply wander, follow my curiosity, and daydream.

This is the world of “I-in-It” in which I’m open to connecting with more.^  Here I find the future.

The worlds of “I-in-Us” and “I-in-Now” will follow but, for now, I’ve somewhere I can go every day, beyond the fixed state of who I have become into the interactive state of who I am becoming.

Something else happens.  I find this to be the place where my head and heart and hands are rejoined:

‘We are born makers.  We move what we’re learning from our heads to our hearts through our hands.’^^

‘It turns out there is no way to divorce the demands of the head and the demands of the hands from the lining of the heart.’*^

We all get stuck – in life, in work, in relationships, in direction – and it’s normally when we disconnect the head from the hands and so from the heart.

We can all make places for rejoining- these places are already in and around and in-between our homes and workplaces.

(*From Elle Luna’s The Crossroads of Should and Must.)
(**From Keri Smith’s The Wander Society.)
(^I-In-Me, I-in-It, I-in-Us, and I-in-Now are terms borrowed from Otto Scharmer’s Theory U.  The four refer to, in order, the closed life, opening the mind, opening the heart, and opening the will.)
(^^From Brené Brown’s Rising Strong.)
(*^From Bernadette Jiwa’s Meaningful.)

out of reach


Where do you go to stay outside the reach of the establishment, the institution, the status quo, in order to feed your wildness?

‘These rituals include a gathering of tools, a wearing of a wandering uniform, a reciting/reading of the Wander’s Manifesto, and summoning the spirits of fellow wanderers.’*

This isn’t a place of invulnerability, indeed, it’s the opposite.  It’s where you’re able to move out of the reach of the judgements of those who don’t understand what you do or what you long to bring to others.  You have shaped practices that make it possible to do this daily.

An important note from Rohit Bhargava proffers, ‘there is beauty in the imperfect as well, and that beauty may be far more worthy of celebrating’.**

This “imperfection,” as Bhargava names it, keeps what we do out of reach of those who want to standardise and, whether consciously or unconsciously, control you.

The only control, though, comes from within, not without.  You know that whilst the best things include others, you must be capable of moving alone.

Where this begins to happen is in your understanding that you can make time.  It began by creating just ten minutes to explore your Must and now you know the creative human spirit is one of the most powerful things in the world.

In this way, you are able to inhabit the space that lies between the earth and the skies, between the reality of things and the possibility of things.

(*From Keri Smith’s The Wander Society.)
(**From Rohit Bhargava’s Non-Obvious.)

without precedent


This has never happened before doesn’t mean this can’t happen now.

This has never happened to me doesn’t mean that this cannot be begun by you now.

What can the future be that the past has not been?  What is your dream?

Beginning with your kind of electricity, the energy unique to you, what are you noticing and others don’t – the things others miss you can’t help dreaming about?

‘The wanderer becomes one with himself or herself and the universe.  We connect with the energy of all living things.  We live according to ur inner nature.’*

You create precedence.

(*From Keri Smith’s The Wander Society.)


and in the end


I seize today as another opportunity to fill my days.

This doesn’t require something big and momentous; it’s said of Walt Whitman that he gained pleasure from the ordinary things he came upon while sauntering and strolling.

It’s not what we have but what we appreciate about and/or do with what we have.  I sense this to be a great adventure opening for 2017.

It’s in this effort life invites us to make, so incomprehensible to those who look for the least disrupted and safest path, when wrapped up in the vulnerability that is about trying and failing and trying again that in the end  produces the gift we make to others.

blessed are those who look for they will see more

‘The very nature of the universe invites you to a journey and to discover it.’*

‘I closed my eyes and tried to remember the way everything had looked as I walked home.  As soon as the image started to form in my head, I began to draw.’**

Our lives and their purpose emerge from what we see.

All see differently and this is because of the universe of possibilities we live in.  Everyone is capable of bringing some different perspective to enrich others, contribute to the world that is our home, and grow ourselves.

The difficult thing is to keep seeing, to be open to see more and more – to always hold an attitude that we have not seen enough of the infinite-more there is to see.  Those who hold this sense of life always see more, and then more still.  It is not about being privileged or celebrity-special in some way but is simply about being prepared to keep looking.

The universe opens to those who seek.

(*From John O’Donohue’s Eternal Echoes.)
(**From Alette Willis’s How to Make a Golem.)

you are the one

“Wherever the hero may wander, whatever he may do, he is ever in the presence of his own essence – for he has the perfected eye to see.”*

‘There is delight in seeing something unexpected … Embrace your flaws.’**

You are the one we have been waiting for.  Rejoicing in your birth, we wait for what it is you bring, the imperfect thing that fascinates and energises you that is better than perfect.

In this, your life is for a greater purpose, it is for our salvation.

Today can be a day of births and beginnings and becomings.

(*Joseph Campbell, quote in Keri Smith’s The Wander Society.)
(**From Rohit Bhargava’s Non-Obvious.)