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31 the self wishes

‘The Self wishes to create to evolve.  The Ego likes things just the way they are.’*

For forty days we’ve been exploring how and what to let go of in order to let a new something and new Self come, to emerge.

I’ve no idea what this might mean, only that there are possibilities in front of me I couldn’t sense before.  I know I’ve been given an “A” and I’m turning up to find out what this can mean.**

Turning up is part of what it means to have an A attitude.  It means the only thing I’m prepared to make a final judgement on is that I have and A, so I keep my mind open.  It means taking a long view, that nothing is going to happen in a hurry, but a lot might happen slowly.  It is an exodus, quest, odyssey.

When we’re on this kind of journey, there’ll be part of us screaming for conclusion: “I want to know what this is.  When will I arrive?  I want to know exactly what’s involved.”  All we know about what lies before us, though, is that we have the whisper of an idea which excites us, and, the journey will change us.

‘Acknowledging the good that is already in your life is the foundation for all abundance.’^

(*From Steven Pressfield’s The War of Art.)
(**The concept of giving people an “A” before they’ve done anything is explored in Rosamund and Benjamin Zander’s The Art of Possibility.)
(^From Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth.)

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30 acknowledging

For the last forty days, we’ve been exploring whys and ways for letting go so we can let come and receive what our futures can be.  Although the exploration hasn’t been linear or systematic, instead following thoughts wherever they have taken me, this does feel like a conclusion for me.

One of the switches we can make which effectively blocks this, is closing ourselves to what we need to receive from others, and asking of others what we need to do for ourselves.

The lives others live in a bigger world, the stories they have to tell, their words of encouragement, the new ideas they bring, the challenges they provide us with, are the things which open more to us.  One community named this more magis.*  Magis means to give everything and then to find we have even more to give.  In the more, there are many possibilities to explore.

When we take personal responsibility for doing certain things ourselves, we find there is a metamorphosis happening in us.  We are being transformed through the doing, we become.  This will never happen if we want someone else to do the hard work, even if the other is our god.

What we are growing is character.

We discover that our talent can only take us so far, whilst character takes who we are and what we have and move it into a powerful creativity beyond the malaise Ben Zander names second fiddle-itis.   This is something Zander sees falling on those who can’t be first violin, an cannot see how second fiddle can lead to incredible work.  We’ve all have been given an A up front and it’s our characters which understand the implication son this and make it possible for us to realise our A.**

If I may, I’ll conclude forty days of reflecting with a personal story.  I find myself thinking about sixteen years I spent in a “first violin” role that was mostly about administration – something I’m not very good at and have let go of.  The years were more about forming character, and letting go of the role has made it possible to let come my “second violin” role of life-whisperering.  Every day, I know I have to do the things I cannot give away to others, including being humble, grateful, and faithfully giving away who I am and what I have.

All of this leads me to say, I think what you are doing is amazing, but what you can be and do in the future is even more astonishing.  If there is any way I can be second violin supporting your first violin work, let me know.

(*See Chris Lowney’s account of the early Jesuits in Heroic Leadership.)
(**See Rosamund and Benjamin Zander’s The Art of Possibility.)

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29 like ant-man

It feels like a whisper, compared to the gale-force powers around.

When a whisper is trained, though, it becomes a powerful thing – honed with humility, gratitude, and faithfulness, and tempered by courage, generosity, and wisdom.

‘The greatest art is an intersection of contrasts … pain and healing, despair and hope, darkness and light.’*

One group of whisperers used the training “circuit” of awareness, love, ingenuity, and courage, to develop their whispering into the lives of others.**

Whisperers know this, they know their power comes from within.  Facing the reality of who they are and who they can become, they see they can make a difference for others, innovate their particular talents for impact, and step into the vulnerability.

(*From Erwin McManus’s The Artisan Soul.)
(**Chris Lowney tells the story of the early Jesuits in his book Heroic Leadership.)

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28 wisdom defines

‘There are always more obstacles, bigger challenges.  You’re always fighting uphill.  Get used to it and train accordingly.’*

“Well, with this life you lead no one would have a sense of creativity.”**

Wisdom navigates a universe full of obstacles with vigour and generativeness and goodness.  Not so that we can overcome and forget the obstacles, but to use them as means to grow and develop.

Wisdom discovered and articulated by those who have gone before us provides us with ways to begin, until we find our own way.

Wisdom defines reality so it can discern possibilities which enables ways into the future to be discovered.^

Foolishness isn’t stupid so much as the failure or unwillingness to define reality, meaning it can only repeat the ways it knows, so, then, the future only repeats the past.

Wisdom knows, what lies on the other side of an obstacle isn’t a smooth path but imagination and creativity.

(*From Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth.)
(**Erich Fromm to a Hollywood writer, in The Art of Listening.)
(^Based on Alex McManus’s leadership triad in Makers of Fire.)

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27 provoke

‘If the thought of lack – whether it be money, recognition, or love – has become part of who you think you are, you will always experience lack.  Rather than acknowledge the good that is already in your life, all you see is lack.  Acknowledging the good that is already in your life is the foundation for all abundance.’*

‘The takers of this world always need more [but] the giver is always open-handed.’**

There comes a moment when we have to choose a story.

When we choose the story of abundance, it’s as though we’re entering a new life – life begins again.

“Choose” is a very small word to describe a journey that invites us to open our minds to see and understand more, then open our hearts to what we have and love, so that we are able to open our wills, our hands, becoming producers of goodness and beauty from the abundance we have found within.

Every day this moment of choice appears to us.

(*From Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth.)
(**From Erwin McManus’s Uprising.)

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26 well done you

“Well done, you.”

An expression of celebration.

Though, we don’t always take the opportunity.  There’s always the next thing to do.  No time to stop.   We have to keep things moving.

But what if celebration is important to us for the long term?

What if, as Erwin McManus suggests, gratitude leads to wholeness and wholeness leads to generosity and, with generosity, we find joy – deep enjoyment?*

‘But perseverance is something larger [than persistence].  It’s a long game … until the end.’**

What if, rather than waiting for the pay-off at some unknown point in the future, we were to set ourselves for a long journey of achieving many things, celebrating sooner and more often.

What if this was moving our life from one of persistence – gritted-teeth living – into perseverance – imaginatively expansive living?

And, wherever possible, celebrating with others.

‘I can tell that there is an undeniable relationship between happiness and resilience.  People who enjoy life make life more enjoyable for others.’^

What if another word for perseverance is resilience?  Or more than resilience, antifragility?^^  More than retaining our integrity under stress, we grow; we take the opportunity to create more than response?

What if, when you’ve done something positive, we take a moment or more to celebrate, to somehow say, “Well done, you!”

(*Erwin McManus’s Uprising.)
(**From Ryan Holliday’s The Obstacle is the Way.)
(^From Erwin McManus’s The Artisan Soul.)
(^^See Nassim Taleb’s Antifragile.)



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25 no longer

‘We live in interesting times, a remarkable age that offers countless opportunities for personal growth and advancement.’*

Once upon a time, there were the Some and the Others.  Some had a good education, secured a good work role, and identified clarity and purpose early on in life.  The Others didn’t.

Things are changing.  The Others are finding they can access an education to fit them, which are largely free, they are exploring identity, and figuring out what they want to do.  They may even find themselves with an advantage over those who have given up on their dreams for privilege, position, and pay.

I’ve been telling the story of Roz and Ben Zander’s idea of issuing an A to all Ben’s music students at the beginning of the academic year; here’s the explanation:

‘We give the A to finesse the stronghold of judgement that grades have over our consciousness from our earliest days.’**

The Zanders go on to explain how the A makes it possible for the teacher and pupil – and similar relationships in the workplace – to work together and make the A a reality, becoming ‘a team for accomplishing the extraordinary.’**

I guess we’ve all had experiences of not making the grade.  But now we have an A, and the question is, What are we waiting for?

If you’re still figuring our your quest, why not find others to explore with?   You can also check out some sites which provide free or very low cost course with all kinds of subjects: becoming astronauts, superheroes, and happiness, are just some I’ve signed up for recently.^

Also, you can also get in touch with me to explore the quests and curricula of possibility.

(*From Chris Guillebeau’s The Happiness of Pursuit.)
(**From Rosamund andBenjamin Zander’s The Art of Possibility.)
(^Here are some free education websites, giving a lot more reading, riting, and 
rithmetic: NovoEd, edX, TED, udemy.