Where did the time go? I was 16 not long ago and now I’m 57.
I find myself wondering. If I could lives these years again, knowing what I know now, how would I use them?
Today is what I have. Today is my opportunity to live the years again.
“Hurry is an unpleasant thing in itself, but also for whoever is around it. Some people came into my room and rushed in and rushed out and even when they were there they were not there – they were in the moment ahead or the moment behind. Some people who came in for a moment were all there, completely in the moment.”*
‘any experience can become the basis of a new offering that elicits a transformation’**
‘all relationships are teleological … they’re going somewhere’^
When we are fully present, any experience can become transformative for us and for others.
At the beginning of each day, I read random scripts from many sources, bringing together different ideas, and forming something I didn’t see at the beginning of my reading and reflecting. Through the day, I will find myself in a number of conversations, in and around work, that’ll allow new things to come if I am present. These new things are adjacent possibilities.
Even now, wherever you’re reading this, because of the experiences through your years, the skills and talents you’ve developed, and the curiosities and passions you carry with you, there’re so many possibilities for how to live these. You only need to be present to them, and to this end, you have today.
“The beautiful truth about the adjacent possible is that its boundaries grow as you explore them. Each new combination opens up the possibility of new combinations.”^^
I am still a learner in the ways of being open to these.
‘at the end of the conversation, you realise you are no longer the person you were when you started the conversation. You have connected to a deeper source – to the source of who you really arena to have a sense of why you are here’*^
Steve Peters writes about the chimp paradox we carry around inside our lives. The chimp doesn’t like the unfamiliar one bit, will always close down possibilities of the new. The chimp is into fight, flight, or freeze – each of which is an absencing practice. We have our human minds to overcome the desire to be somewhere safe, but I think we need more than our minds alone, we need our hearts too.
We must learn to listen with our hearts most of all because it is the generator lying between our heads and our hands.
It is how we are most excited to be present.
(*Anne Morrow Lindbergh, quote in the Northumbria Community‘s Morning Prayer.)
(**From Joseph Pine and James Gilmore’s The Experience Economy.)
(^From Donald Miller’s Scary Close.)
(^^Stephen Johnson, quoted in Peter Diamandis and Steve Kotler’s Abundance.)
(*^From Otto Scharmer’s Theory U.)