Sometimes we let go but wonder where is the letting come?
In her happiness project, Gretchen Rubin contemplates the research which showed how happiness and unhappiness rise and fall independently of each other – we’re not simply one or the other.
‘To be happy, I need to think about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right.’*
Feeling right is the interesting part of this, because choosing the right way leads to growth, and growth is really important to happiness.
The right way will express itself in success and intuitiveness, but it will also produce growth in us and meet our needs. Indeed, these are four tests for our chosen path.
My friend Charlotte Bosseaux writes about the uncanny or acousmatic effect that can be our experience from ‘a voice whose source cannot be seen, i.e. and off-camera (or off-screen) voice’ in a film or TV programme that is dubbed.**
It made me think about how our life experiences can are often the other way around: we are being translated from a dubbed version – from someone else’s idea for our lives’s (parents, partners, peers) – to an original version (our authentic voice). The journeys of letting go and letting come are transformational to this magnitude:
‘The most important change in any transformation journey is the change of heart.’^
‘By “heart” I mean the place where the emotions meet reason, mobilise the will, and shape identity.’^^
Crossing borders and entering unfamiliar lands leads to transformation. Those who migrate are entering the liminal space between letting go and letting come. So too the journey from the dubbed life to an original life is a liminal experience in which transformation occurs.
The letting come, then, isn’t being waited for, it’s happening all the time: new ideas and thinking, new people and cultures, new science and understanding, new behaviours and activities.
Life becomes stronger when we’re able to give ourselves away – which is about letting go and letting come.
(*From Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project.)
(**From Charlotte Bosseaux’s Dubbing, Film and Performance.)
(^From Otto Scharmer’s Leading From the Emerging Future.)
(^^From Alex McManus’s Makers of Fire.)
(*^From John O’Donohue’s Eternal Echoes.)