Or, taking notice of the things which you have expressed or completed successfully, intuitively, which you have grown through, and, which meet a need in you.*
I first came upon these words from T. S. Eliot in 1998; every so often they’ve returned, defining the journey I find myself on:
We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time.**
In 1998, they felt true for the discoveries I’d made over the previous fifteen years, but as I think from now until then, they feel more true.
Human life is always growing up. We see this over thousands of years, and we catch a glimpse of it even in a person’s short life-span – a microcosm of this.
We’re thinking machines and our thinking is growing up and, although we carry our old thinking which pulls us backwards at times, we are still moving forward with this operating system of thinking and functioning (OS) which can be improved and grown and upgraded as we go.
As I ponder these things, I hold my twin needs to belong and long: my need for intimacy and for exploration. In my explorations, or journeyings of longing, I’ve found my best belonging, although I know this can only improve as I am prepared to continue exploring – the sense of meaning in Eliot’s words for me.
I’ve found myself journeying and exploring through the things I have experienced small successes in (and where these have led), through the things I feel I MUST do because they are me, and which lead to me growing, and meeting the deep needs in me.
This is how it is for each of us, though in quite different ways – and wonderfully so. The amazing thing is how we can often find our belonging with each other through all of our disparate journeys.