Our best chance is not to have but to be.
The comforting fantasy will kill us dead for certain. You know how lethal fantasies go: “Some day …” and “If I only had …” and “He will change …” and “If I just learn to control myself … when I get really ready, when I have enough xyz, when the kids are grown, when I am more secure, when I find someone else, and as soon as I …” and so on.*
Clarissa Pinkola Estés
There will always be something
we haven’t got.
If that means we don’t begin
or take the next step,
Then this can be comforting.
We can let ourselves
off the hook for another day.
There’s always
what we have got.
Who we are
and what we have
right now
is likely more than enough to
move forward.
But perhaps
we didn’t want to hear that.
*Clarissa Pinkola Estés’ Women Who Run With the Wolves.
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