You can alter the story you are feeding your brain.*
Martin Amor and Alex Pellew

As an adult, I’ver come to realise that life isn’t about finding yourself. It’s about creating yourself. Books are clay for exactly that.**
Tim Ferriss

Finding yourself is a good place to begin, though.

By the time you are an adult you’ll have made hundreds of thousands of choices that have resulted in you being you.

Resulting in talents and values and creativity.

It’s worthwhile noticing these.

Noticing the contributions of others, attending to the significant moments and expereinces.

Helpful and unhelpful, good and bad, positive and negative.

You now have so many points for growing, it’s astonishing

And there’s an added bonus:

when you begin actively and intentionally moving forward in your life, not only does your future aget better but your past does as well. Your past increasingly becomes something happening for you, not to you. … Your past evolves as you evolve.^

It’s where our life-in-all-its-fullness is to be found.

*From Martin Amor and Alex Pellew’s The Idea In You;
**Tim Ferriss, from Maria Popova and Claudia Bedrick’s A Velocity of Being;
^From Ben Hardy’s Personality Isn’t Permanent.