Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is the power to choose our response.*
We have to work with reality, including the reality within.
The five elemental truths identify our limitations:
Life is hard
You are not as special as you think
Your life is not about you
You are not in control
You are going to die.
I often suggest humility, gratitude and faithfulness as the means for playing with reality:
Humility to be our true self (which is a growth strategy)
Gratitude to notice all that we do have
Faithfulness to playing with these in imaginative and creative ways.
Slowly, we enlarge the spaces in which our choices can be made.