I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become.*
It’s not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one most adaptable to change.**
Ella Frances Sanders identifies the warmduscher in her compendium of untranslatable words from around the world:
WARMDUSCHER: n. Refers to someone who would only take a warm shower (not an icy cold or burning hot one), implying that they are a bit of a wimp, and willing to step outside of their comfort zone.^
As we grow older, our personality may become more fixed, not because we are incapable of further growth, but because we are unwilling to step into new environments, be that a place, a project, an activity, a person, a book, or an idea.
It has to be something different, not simply another version of the same thing.
We become comfortable, but comfort is our enemy.
We stop living our own story forwards and begin living on the stories of others, where ,
a story is an account of a character, in set of circumstances, facing choices, who undergoes change^^.
Change shouldn’t be a bonus but the norm as we live our one life to its full.
Perhaps time to try some dreamwhispering.
*Carl Jung, quoted in Sir Ken Robinson’s Out of Our Minds;
**Charles Darwin, quoted in Brian McLaren’s God Unbound;
^From Ella Frances Sanders’ Lost in Translation;
^^From Bernadette Jiwa’s What Great Storytellers Know.