It is not possible to experience a feeling of control unless one is willing to give up the safety of protective routines.*
“It won’t work.”
The trouble is, the new is often measured by the old, even though it’s now struggling.
Someone, at some point, has to go try out the new and see what happens, to help it escape the gravitational pull of the old.
(*From Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s Flow.)