And there’s a beauty that is harder to define or understand, because it occurs not just in the body but where the body and the spirit meet and define each other.*
(Ursula Le Guin)
Hence the fundamental importance of the so-called “double task”: to be able to act and reflect on one’s actions at the same time.**
(Maureen O’Hara and Graham Leicester)
We all get things wrong, we all fail. Facing up to these and yet not dwelling on them is what real forgiveness makes possible.
In a real way, forgiveness makes it possible for us to both act and to be reflective, to deal with our mess ups in a way that learns and integrates, keeping moving towards greater beauty.
This kind of forgiveness is like the lacquer resin mixed with gold or silver dust in the Japanese art of kintsugi (kin tsugi = golden joinery), making what was broken not only whole again but also beautiful in a way that defines us and the gift we bring into the world.
The most difficult thing can be receiving it.
(*Ursula Le Guin, quoted in Maria Popova’s Brain Pickings: Ursula K. Le Guin on Ageing and What Beauty Really Means.)
(**From Maureen O’Hara’s Dancing at the Edge.)