‘What they really want, in fact, is to be helped to do the things they want to do. […] The smallest thing can feel like magic to someone who has been living with a problem they may not be able to articulate.’*
“Show me the hidden things, the creatures of my dreams, the storehouse of forgotten memories and hurts. Take me down to the spring of my life, and tell me my nature and my name.”**
Bernadette Jiwa leads us to how we can be helped by another, and we can help another to make a breakthrough. George Appleton asks to be led to the place of hidden things, the spring of his life. We need each other.
Gerd Gigerenzer reminds me about how our life takes form between an understanding of ourselves and our environment; he’s describing how gut feelings work:
‘A gut feeling rapidly appears in consciousness, based on unconscious rules of thumb. These are anchored in the evolved capacities our the brain and the environment.’^
Maira Kalman writes lovingly of walking – we might call this exteriority:
“I walk everywhere in the city. Any city. You see everything you need to see for a lifetime. Every emotion. Every condition. Every fashion. Every glory.’^^
I’m suggesting calling this exteriority after Peter Senge’s description of something he names interiority:
‘Interiority refers to a richer perceptual universe and awareness of self.’*^
We need both interiority and exteriority (which can be a person or some country scene as well as a city) because what we often think of as being alive is in the interaction between the two. Seth Godin asks:
‘Are you stuck with the ways things were, instead of busy turning things into what they could be?’^*
Godin asks this question in his book Tribes, about people finding one another in order to make a difference. It’s a book that led me to a group of people with whom I’m still collaborating six years later. They are also people who’ve helped me become more who I am.
In between me and you, futures emerge.
(*From Bernadette Jiwa’s Meaningful.)
(**George Appleton, quoted in the Northumbria Community‘s Morning Prayer.)
(^From Gerd Gigerenzer’s Gut Feelings.)
(^^Maira Kalman, quoted in Maria Popova’s Brain Pickings: Walking as Creative Fuel.)
(*^From Peter Senge’s The Necessary Revolution.)
(^*From Seth Godin’s Tribes.)