That’s the crucial way to tell whether you are on your first or second mountain. Where is your ultimate appeal? To self, or to something outside of self? If the first mountain is about building up the ego and defining the self, the second mountain is about shedding the ego and losing the self.*
That’s how you’re going to fix the world – with your gifts and talents.**
Which comes first?
The good choice or the difference it makes in us?
Looking back, my best choices have also been the hardest ones to make. They were – and are – choices about who I want to become. In turn, who I am becoming has made for more hard choices because there are more possibilities.
To refine David Brooks’ definition, I would say that the second mountain we climb involves shedding the ego for the eco – connection with others – and the false self for the true Self.
When it comes to these things there will be mistakes, I will be misunderstood and even overlooked, but there will be no regrets.