The adventure is its own reward – but it’s necessarily dangerous having both negative and positive possibilities, all of them beyond control.*
It is a very recent disease to mistake the unobserved for the non-existent; but some are plagued with the worse disease of mistaking the unobserved for the unobservable.**
If we think we have the answers then we judge everything by them; when we are prepared to live with the questions then even more will open up to us:
‘Choosing to be curious is choosing to be vulnerable because it requires us to surrender to uncertainty. […] There is a profound relationship – a love affair really – between curiosity and wholeheartedness.’^
To be curious means to take care. To take care always requires more information and so we ask questions.
Questions lead us into the “Other,” and the Other leads us into ourselves more fully, as Martin Buber alludes to here:
‘The concentration and fusion into a whole being can never be accomplished by me, can never be accomplished without me. I require a You to become; becoming I, I say You. All actual life is encounter.’^^
This way of exploring the world, including the worlds of others, through questions rather than through answers, is too difficult for some, as Hugh Macleod has noticed:
Telling people what to do is easy. Forcing them to do it is easy. […] Building a consensus, selling your idea, gaining friends and followers, and creating a cause people want to join. That’s hard.’*^
It is hard because, as Buber expresses, we cannot know ourselves apart from others and we cannot know others apart from knowing ourselves, and this, for some, is not a place they want to venture.
(*From Joseph Campbell and Bill Moyers’ The Power of Myth.)
(**From Nassim Taleb’s The Bed of Procrustes.)
(^From Brené Brown’s Rising Strong.)
(^^From Martin Buber’s I and Thou.)
(*^From gapingvoid’s On modern leadership.)