It is egotism that makes us identify with one opinion rather than another, become quarrelsome and unkind, say this could not mean that, and think we have a duty to change other to suit ourselves.*
Anger is a powerful emotion but it can be a lazy kind of power when we need it to become smart power. Needing to become courage and generosity and wisdom, anger often alerts us to something that is not right.
We then need to be asking questions: What’s wrong here?, How can it be changed?
Unless we do this anger can be an ego thing, about me, when it needs to be an eco thing – about us.
Anger doesn’t always spill out. That’s the message In one of Adam Saddler’s better films Anger Management. His character doesn’t realise he’s internalising anger and its spoiling his life and the lives of those around him – that is, until he’s set up by his girlfriend to meet an anger management counsellor in the form of Jack Nicholson.
It reminds me, Angry is not where I want to live.
(*From Karen Armstrong’s Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life.)