Why should you compare? said Uncle.  Each thing possesses its own special essence which has nothing to do with anything else.  Understand the essence of a thing said Uncle, and you know everything you need to know.*
(Alan Lightman)

All of us have to learn how to invent our lives, make them up, imagine them.  We need too be taught these skills, we need guides to show us how.  Without them, our lives get made up for us by other people.**
(Ursula Le Guin)

Don’t get equal, get different.

Your different helps me be different.  That’s how we pass different on.

(*From Alan Lightman’s Mr g.)
(**Ursula Le Guin, quoted in Maria Popova’s Brain Pickings.)