“If people would but do what they had to do, they would find themselves ready for what came next.”*
‘An adage worth repeating is also halfway to being irrelevant. You end up with something that is easy to say but not connected to behaviour.’**
No one wants to adage before their time.
Adaging creeps up on us as we rely more on what we have done in the past and less on what lies before us. The future doesn’t exist and for this reason doesn’t do well with adages.
Seth Godin points to how we try and move into something new by comparing it with something old:
‘Of course, if you put a new experience in the box of an old experience, it’s not a new experience, is it? Problem solved.
But you’ve also just cut yourself off from what that new experience could deliver. A new box. The entire point.’^
If we move into the future with the understanding that it can be what it wants to be then new things are possible – and within ourselves first of all. Peter Senge writes:
‘An inner alignment starts to develop that can release extraordinary energy and creativity, qualities previously dissipated by denial, inner contradictions, and unawareness of this situation and oneself.’^^
John O’Donohue “adds” that we’ll find there’s more to us than meets the eye:
‘In the neglected crevices and corners of your evaded solitude, you will find the treasure you have always sought elsewhere.’*^
Here we find what we need to counteract the adaging affect. Peter Senge continues:
‘It is critical that you don’t frame your goal in the context of what you know today. If you do, you will limit the reach of your aspiration.’^^
Another treasure for overcoming early adaging is found in the companionship of others, particularly those who help one another to keep on exploring. O’Donohue names these anam cara – soul-friends – those who bring their best self to others.
Erwin McManus finds himself challenged to believe in the friendship someone was offering him, and asks:
Who are the people who can believe in my friendship?’^*
If you find yourself using adages for oneself, don’t believe them, don’t succumb to adage.
(*George MacDonald, quoted in the Northumbria Community‘s Morning Prayer.)
(**From Ed Catmull’s Creativity, Inc..)
(^From Seth Godin’s blog: Experiences and your fear of engagement.
(^^From Peter Senge’s The Necessary Revolution.)
(*^From John O’Donohue’s Anam Cara.)
(^*From Erwin McManus’ The Last Arrow.)