It’s not a race

‘Winning a yoga race.

It makes no sense, of course.

The question this prompts is: Are there places you feel like you’re falling behind where there’s actually no race?’*

‘Like the discovery of neorogenisis and neural plasticity, the discovery that biology thrives on disorder is paradigm-shifting. […] Chaos is everywhere […].  Like a cloud, life is highly irregular, disorderly and more or less unpredictable.”‘**

I really like Seth Godin’s idea of a yoga race.  And I also like Jonah Lehrer pointing to the impact of retrotransposons on individuality: ‘junk genes that randomly jump around the human genome’.**  Many of the finishing lines we see are ones we have created, and many of us are running races we don’t need to.

John O’Donohue introduces a thought that shifts our thinking about Life  with a capital L and our life:

‘Friendship is the sweet grace which liberates is to approach, recognise and inhabit the adventure.’^

Turning “the competition” into a friend in order to enter the adventure is not a bad idea.  This is to play the infinite game, though, I am not unrealistic.  There are times when we have to play finite games but that’s quite different to thinking it’s the only game – and wherever possible we can defer to the infinite – to include as many as possible for as long as possible, and when the rules threaten this, to change the rules.

Here are some ways we can turn the competition into the friend:

Be a mind-opener, introducing others to new thinking.

Be a navigator, helping others to steer through challenges or crises.

Be a collaborator, working with others.

Be a champion, watching their backs.

Be an encourager, being a positive space for others to enter.

Be a builder, helping others to develop.

Be a connector, introducing others to other others who may help them.

Be a companion, getting together just for being together.^^

Life makes much more sense as friendships than it does as a race.

(*From Seth Godin’s blog Winning a yoga race.)
(**Froom Jonah Lehrer’s Proust was a Neuroscientist, quoting Karl Popper.)
(^From John O’Donohue’s Anam Cara.)
(^^From Tom Rath’s Vital Friends.)

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