James Carse writes about how infinite players don’t play within boundaries but with boundaries. Their game is about including as many people for as long as possible and, when the rules get in the way, they change the rules.*
Kio Stark introduces us to the social convention called “civil inattention,” meaning when we approach someone, we notice them and then avert our attention, indicating we’re not going to interrupt their progress – sometimes it can be accompanied by a brief “hello of some sort .”**
These are more finite game rules, playing out to different strengths in different cultures, but needing to be moved beyond if we’re to explore what it is to be human.
Theory U encourages us to push the boundaries social norms, moving us towards one another and towards presence, rather than away from one another and absence.^
It simply asks that we invent ways of opening our minds to there being more, before we open our hearts, and before we move to working together.
It’s a good start.