“Notice, dream, connect, do.”*
‘What fools call “wasting time” is most often the best investment.’**
I grew up in a family that did not tend towards sharing emotions, never mind talking about how to handle them. There wasn’t guidance on how to recognise what I am calling my joyful agitation, either – the emotional energy of my life.
That I find myself where I am, listening to people’s lives, results from coming across others who’ve encouraged me to spend time looking at my life in specific ways. When we notices our emotions then we are able to grow our curiosity and the adventure begins.
Brené Brown identifies several reasons why we don’t develop our emotional intelligence: it’s a sign of vulnerability, feel it but don’t share it with others, we don’t have the emotional language, it’s frivolous and indulgent, we can’t feel anyway, uncertainty is uncomfortable, you’re just inviting trouble.^
Wasting time towards noticing our emotions – a daily, reflective practice can help us do this – enables us to “slip our anchors,” the things which have held us in the one place for too long.
‘You don’t become completely free by just avoiding to be a slave, you also need to avoid becoming a master.’**