Shared by one of the speakers at the event I mentioned yesterday, dealing with risk and fear and failure.
Order is an illusion. All the time there are all kinds of forces at play; we are constantly adjusting and aligning to these, often through the contribution or work of others.*
Keith Yamashita (I offered two of his questions yesterday – slightly altered) offers two more really helpful questions. Again, he is asking these of businesses but they work for the individual:
“Whom must we fearfully become?”
“What is true about us at our core?”**
These two questions offer us important anchors in what is a constantly shifting and more-messy-than-we-dare-to-admit world.
The first anchors in the future and what we hope to be: imagine what you’d have written on your gravestone to sum up your life.
The second identifies who we most essentially are in this moment: which is about presence.
Both involve listening very carefully to what our lives are saying to us – which we can trust when we are constantly seeking to connect with our highest values (including worldviews and gods), with others (“We are Human” before “I am Human”), the world (seeing how everything I do affects the world and vice versa); and my Future Self (who and what I am capable of).
This essential person is shaped by our relentless honesty about ourselves and what we have, and generously contributing for the sake of others.
We become the kind of people who can constantly mix things up in a world which relentlessly asks new questions of us. We won’t hide away in our political, philosophical, religious, or relational bubbles. We anticipate the questions and seek to be ahead of what is happening in a lean-forward attitude, anticipating there is more hope than we dare admit. We haven’t got anything all-figured-out but we’re willing to bring energy and enthusiasm to our primal efforts.
But we are often surprised by what takes shape in all the messiness.
(*I’m slowly reading through George Friendman’s The Next 100 Years, which is fascinating read because of what Friedman suspected will take place around the world, includwe’ve been seeing taking place in Ukraine – a constant shifting of political powers and players most of us are unaware of.
(**Quoted in Warren Berger’s A More Beautiful Question.)