3:1 is good.  5:1 would be better.

These are ratios of positive to negative input we need for our lives to be healthy.  3:1 is just the right side of healthy/unhealthy.  When we slip below this,* things begin to get toxic.

When it comes to my work of dreamwhispering,** I’m seeking to bring positive and encouraging whispers (thin|silences) into a person’s life, not in some fictitious way, but refocusing on their good, even great, talents and passions and experiences.

‘When we feel good about the choices we’re making and when we’re engaging with the world from a place of worthiness rather than scarcity, we feel no need to judge and attack.’^

We give one another a better chance to flourish when we recognise who we each are and what we each can do.  We’re really expressing faith in each other – faith as a future-orientated sense – to be the very best we can be.  We can add to one another’s sense of disconnection and unworthiness and emptiness, or we can build each other up with our whispers.  We’re not looking for perfection or completeness, but enoughness: ‘Think progress, not perfect.’^^

In the same way as there is no future, there is no past.  But there are possible futures whilst there’s no returning to the past.

Peter Senge offers animateur as the name for the person who ‘seeks to bring systematic change … someone who “brings to life” a new way of thinking, seeing, or interacting that creates focus and energy.’*^  Whilst Senge is thinking of the professional person who steps in-between business and the environment to create new ways forward, his animateur is something we can all aspire to.

(*According to Martin Seligman in his book Flourish, in the United States, ‘Law is the profession with the highest depression, suicide, and divorce rates,’ as litigation requires they are fighting all the time.)
(**You can find out more about this at geoffreybaines.com.)
(^From Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly.)
(^^From Ryan Holiday’s The Obstacle is the Way.)
(*^From Peter Senge’s The Necessary Revolution.)