One of the homes we find is the one of being truly who we are:
‘The starting place for change is accepting oneself and taking interest in one’s inner world.’*
This is not about individualism; it is about embracing our individuality, an individuality we can take into, and contribute to, community.
‘Individualism is the enemy of individuality.’**
A second home we find, then, is one which calls us to stretch and develop who we are and what we do, including who we are and what we do together.
This is our community of knowing, a group of people who perceive and value life similarly, sharing a focus and intent to birth a better future. Whilst members are at ease with one another because they don’t have to find or win an argument over some or other perspective, they voluntarily live within a mutually generated discomfort: each challenging the others to learn more, to love more, to do more. If one of their number is considered to be the group’s leader – to whom the others defer, then they know the community is ailing. This person will elect to leave or everyone will launch into a new chapter of individual development.
These communities embody what Warren Berger has called connective inquiry. Not rushing to fast answers, they test ideas which emerge from the deeper questioning of Why?, What if?, How? They aim to fail early in order to fail fast so they might try again because they know their early attempts are really questions, not answers.
This gamefulness allows them to re-engage their imaginations towards courageous and generous action. You will often hear individuals say how thought they knew who they were until they engaged in a community of knowing, but they go on to admit, they didn’t really know themselves at all.
These communities are growing up in many places, with many shapes, and fecundity of focus.
David Marquet writes about everyone has an ‘everyday superhero within,’ but, ‘Unfortunately, fear, intimidation, posturing, and deception suppress the desire for people to embrace their potential.’^
Finding a community of knowing begins to level the field.