To go further, we have to surrender ourselves to what we do not have any control over.
‘It is the authority of having been in the place of no control over the outcome, and then coming out on the other side – larger and more alive, and thus able to invite others over and into that Bigger Field.’*
There are barriers, or thresholds, between myself and others, myself and the world, and myself and my future Self, and the only way to pass over or through is by surrendering myself.
Depending on the particular threshold, this is a liminal experience of various degrees: I don’t know exactly what I’ll find on the other side and, for this reason, my first inclination is to avoid this, but I know I can only become a person who is useful to others through difficulty rather than ease: it takes time and effort and energy to connect and to respond to connectedness:
“I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: The only ones among you who will be really happy are those who sought and found out how to serve.”**
Those who are willing to surrender to this way are the ones who become sherpas and guides to others – some might even say, leaders.