People’s cognitive machinery is preprogrammed for regret.*
Marcel Zeelenberg and Rik Pieters
In fact, it may be the question that our lives pivot around or, indeed, the whole world revolves around. Can we be forgiven?
Nick Cave
You did something and you shouldn’t have,
You didn’t do something and you should have.
Regret is a gift if we’ll embrace it:
We choose not to make that mistake again.
Some say they have no regrets–
So why sing about it?
Regret can sting something rotten,
But not regretting hurts more, and others too.
Perhaps we’re afraid that we won’t be forgiven–
Perhaps life is all about forgiveness.
If we learn to forgive ourselves
and move on, what others think pales to us.
Healers in fairy tales generally represent a calm and unperturbed aspect of the psyche…Every woman’s psyche contains this “fixer.” It is part of the wild and natural psyche and we are born with it.^
*Daniel Pink’s The Power of Regret;
**Nick Cave and Seán O’Hagan’s Faith, Hope and Carnage;
^Clarissa Pinkola Estés’ Women Who Run With the Wolves.
THIN|SILENCE 