An effective way of seeing what you are not seeing is to have it pointed out to you by someone you respect who has a different position in and perspective on the system.*
Adam Kahane

Pain then, is often the teacher that transforms the hero into the guide. That is, if their attitude toward pain is accepting and redemptive.**
Donald Miller

Let us be wary of those who want to guide but
have not struggled or suffered along the way we must take;
Let us be open to those who have been transformed on the way,
Who bring to us insight and compassion.

*Adam Kahane’s Everyday Habits For Transforming Systems;
**Donald Miller’s Hero On a Mission.