It takes an initial tender vulnerability (“wounding”) to defeat our ego and to open us to full consciousness – which must include the scary unconscious.*
Richard Rohr

Rather than ignoring the negative emotion of regret – or worse, wallowing in it – we can remember that feeling is for thinking and that thinking is for doing.**
Daniel Pink

You don’t have to turn away from the pain.^

Notice where it places itself.^^

Does it have a shape, a colour, a texture?

Listen carefully: What is it trying to tell you?

What do you want to ask it?

Now you’re thinking; soon you’ll be doing.

*Richard Rohr’s The Tears Of Things;
**Daniel Pink’s The Power of Regret;
^The Ego does not want to give up its pain; Eckhart Tolle names this “the Painbody”;
^^Noticing helps us to move from being the victim to being an agent.