The thing is, feedback is a gift. Feedback transformed into generoous and useful criticism is priceless.*
Seth Godin

It is difficult, challenging, and yet extremely necessary at the time of wounding to revision our situation so that its larger story is revealed. This means, first of all, that we stop repeating to ourselves the data of the local events or personalities that have caused us pain. This is not to deny the facts but to move out of the easy seductions of tunnel vision into the broader landscape that reveals potent opportunities for growth. … tell the story again – not as a repetition of historical detail, but as a myth in which the wounding is only the middle of the story, the ending of which is the birth of a new grace.**
Jean Houston

This is not about writing a more
positive story using
your difficult and painful experiences;
It’s about what the story opens up for
you to do that
nothing else, so far, has
been able to, and this
for the sake of others.

But we are complex beings, and so are our challenges.
Simplistic solutions tend not to work for
the multilayered nature of our sorrows.
We must accept the complexity,
and the fact that untangling our inner knots will take
time and effort.^

*Seth Godin’s The Song of Significance;
**Jean Houston’s A Mythic Life;
^Anna Katharina Schaffner’s The Art of Self Improvement.