It’s an art and it’s a choice.

Someone is sharing with me something important to them.

Do I disagree or question them negatively?

Or, do I choose to say, “Tell me more,” and ask questions positively?

We all know people who immediately close possibilities down.  The infinite player seeks to keep the conversation open for as long as possible, wants to say Yes to a person so they too can be in the game if it’s at all possible.

There are  many lives which would look quite different today if they’d met someone who opened up a conversation of possibilities rather than closed it down in the moment they made themselves and their dreams vulnerable.

The good news is, everyone get’s to have another go: dreams can be rediscovered and we can all learn to positively inquire of others.

Many conversations develop as if we’re in a finite game – “Let’s sort this nonsense out and focus on the goal” – when, really, life in its truest sense is an infinite game.  How often do we find ourselves with people, in all kinds of situations, and really know what the goal is?  The infinite player or artist orientates ‘toward the open, toward the horizon, toward surprise, where nothing can be scripted.’

‘It’s more like, the better the idea, the more “out there” it
will initially seem to other people, even people you like
and respect.  So there’ll be a time in the beginning when
you have to press on, alone, without one tenth of the
support you probably need.’