The cause

A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.*
Joseph Campbell

The great law of life is: be yourself. Though the axiom sounds simple, it is often the most difficult task. To be yourself, you have to learn how to become who you were dreamed to be. Each person has a unique destiny.**
John O’Donohue

We don’t make the hero.
It is the greater cause that makes the hero of people who are willing
to find themselves by
losing themselves.

*Anna Katharina Schaffner’s The Art of Self Improvement;
**John O’Donohue’s Benedictus.

A richer world

[C]aring is right at the heart of human existence. Sadness is about caring. And the mother of sadness is compassion.*
Dacher Keltner

I love that word treasure. What if we saw ourselves that way. As worthy of treasuring.**
Sam Radford

There’s a four minute video
Made by the Cleveland Clinic that invites us
to step behind the faces we may pass
in hospital corridors without a second thought.
With text appearing to tell us what they are going through,
Concluding with the question:
If you could stand in someone else’s shoes.
Hear what they hear.
Feel what they feel.
Would you treat them differently?

I thought you might like to take a look.

*Susan Cain’s Bittersweet;
**Sam Radford‘s blog: Guard the good treasure trusted to you.

Just a doodle 65

There’s a word in Spanish. … Instead of saying ‘to wake up,’ you say recordarse, that is, to record yourself, to remember yourself. … Every morning I get that feeling because I am more or less nonexistent.  Then when I wake up, I always feel I’m being let down.  Because, well, here I am.  Here’s the same old stupid game going on.  I have to be somebody.  I have to be exactly that somebody.*
Jorge Luis Borges

*From Lewis Hyde’s A Primer for Forgetting.

The boundary lines

Given the uniqueness of each of us, it should not be surprising that one of the greatest challenges is to inhabit your own individuality and to discover which life-form best expresses it.*
John O’Donohue

You cannot be a hero unless you are prepare everything; there is no ascent to the heights without a prior descent into darkness, no new life without some form of death.**
Karen Armstrong

I have mentioned the five elemental truths^
on a few occasions recently,
And this morning found myself contemplating their opposites,
Perhaps,
Life should be fun;
You’re special;
Live your life your way;
Don’t give up control;
Don’t think about death.

The hero, though, is born
by completing the truths^ in
gritty yet elegant ways, until
they have the power to let go and
let come.
This won’t read like a hero to many,
And that’s the thing –
Heroes don’t look like we expect them to,
They’re just ordinary people trying to live their lives
for others.

The boundary lines have fallen for me
in pleasant places;
I have a goodly heritage.^^

*John O’Donohue’s Benedictus;
**Karen Armstrong’s A Short History of Myth;
^Life is hard; You’re not as special as you think; Your life is not about you; You’re to in control; You’re going to die;
^^Psalm 16:6)

The recalibration game

A well lived life without calibration is unlikely.*
Seth Godin

You choose your purpose and then you give your whole should to that purpose. In due time, you’ll transform.**
Ben Hardy

We know only too well that
the game of life isn’t one long, smooth path.
If we’re prepared to be honest, then
there’s a neat skill available to us:
Recalibrating allows us to keep on the path that matters
deeply to us.
And the five elemental truths are one way we can recalibrate :
Life is hard – what’s been going wrong; how have I been making things worse?
You’re not as special as you think – am I prepared to leave the false self behind for a more True Self?
Your life is not about you – how could recalibrating help those around you?
You’re not in control: will I accept what I can and cannot do?
You are going to die: will I allow my limitations to help me fulfil my purpose?

*Seth Godin’s blog: Re-calibrating;
**Ben Hardy’s Personality Isn’t Permanent.

I choose this life

As one Buddhist author put it, the “craving to be otherwise, to be elsewhere” permeated my whole life.*
Dan Harris

Personhoods are staked on the cards dealt and not the hands played, as if we evolved opposable thumbs of our agency for nothing.**
Maria Popova

Trying to stay present to and in
our own lives
is a difficult thing to do –
Perhaps more difficult than ever before.
We can become fixated on
a version of ourselves, or
someone else, that
we can never become,
But to trust and fully live the life we have not only
makes a difference to us but
also to others.
This is how our
“opposable thumbs of our agency” alchemise
flexibility from rigidity.

*Dan Harris’ 10% Happier;
**Maria Popova’s The Marginalian: The Good Luck of Your Bad Luck: Marcus Aurelius on the Stoic Strategy for Weathering Life’s Waves and Turning Suffering into Strength
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I’ll think about it

It is true that once a landscape goes undescribed and therefore unregarded, it becomes more vulnerable to unwise use or improper action.*
Robert Macfarlane

They don’t know what they don’t know until they find out they don’t know it.**
Dave Trott

I enjoy borrowing thoughts from all sorts of places
to use in my dreamwhispering work.
At the same time, I am reading Dan Harris’ 10% Happier
following a student mentioning it to me;
At the moment, as I read, Harris is writing about
meditation.
Meditation can take many forms, including,
It strikes me, in dreamwhispering.
We find the words to describe our talents
and our practices, and then can use
use three meditative, reflective exercises to connect with them
more deeply:
Humility to meditate upon the talents of both ourselves and others;
Gratitude to reflect upon the contents of our “loved it” list;^
Faithfulness to ponder the ways we make these live.^^
I’ll probably play with these some more, but
they provide a useful enough place to begin,
Whether we’re walking, sitting, or journaling.

*Robert Macfarlane’s Landmarks;
**Dave Trott’s One + One = Three;
^A “loved it” list contains all the things you have noticed bringing lots of energy;
^^I call these enriching environments, and we are able to make more of these happen.