When you make a dream come true for yourself, it’ll be a dream come true for someone else, too.*
(Derek Sivers)

Truth be told, there’s very little leadership these days.  As a result, day to day work is dictated.  Employees engagement and satisfaction is assumed and not cultivated.**
(Brian Solis)

Some think they are leading when they tell others what to do and they do it.

Sometimes this is necessary but not often – it works when it’s a matter of life and death right now.  (Though we also have to recognise, this kind of leadership also creates life and death scenarios.)

The rest of the time there’re many other forms of leadership that can be employed, including leadership like yours.

This way of thinking of leadership sees and hears a bigger story, a deeper story.  One that is about the amazing life we have been afforded in this universe rather than our usual bottom lines.

Henry David Thoreau saw himself standing between two eternities:

‘In any weather, at any hour of day or night, I have been anxious to improve the nick of time […] to stand in the meeting of two eternities the past and future, which is precisely the present moment, to toe that line.’^

The reason we get stuck in the day-to-day repetitive stories that we do is because they’re far more clear than those that ask us to look further and to listen harder.  But when we give ourselves to the latter, another eternity opens, the eternity of the present.

Here’s how Eckhart Tolle puts it:

‘Each person’s life – each life form, in fact – represents a world, a unique way in which the universe experiences itself.  And when your form dissolves, a world comes to an end – one of countless worlds.’^^

And if you are a world then there is much still to be discovered, there’re things about yourself you haven’t seen yet.  You discovering yours will create spaces for others to explore and discover theirs.

And we don’t have to be ready and sorted.

This all happens on the journey.

(*From Derek Sivers: Anything You Want.)
(**From Brian Solis and gapingvoid’s eBook 10 Reasons Your Culture is Failing.)
(^From Henry David Thoreau’s Where I Lived and What I Lived For.)
(^^From Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth.)

“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.  All sorts of things occur to help one that would never have otherwise occurred.  A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.’*

In the name of the air,
The breeze,
And the wind,
May our souls
Stay in rhythm
With eternal
Breath.**
(John O’Donohue)

There’s a difference between something you shouldn’t be doing not working and something not working that you must be about.

If you’ve got that worked out don’t be put off if it doesn’t work.  It only means it doesn’t work that way.  You now know to try another way.

And when you have found a way that works, it needs to be practised and honed, to be developed.  It’ll become something else: trying more opens up more.

We think we need to persevere but perseverance is the developed ability of faithfulness to what we know and feel we must be about.

Every time we try something, we’re setting up a context or environment in which we can grow.  There’ll be many signals coming back to us and, when reflected upon, these help us to create the next environment.  These are critically important, as Ben Hardy helpfully passes on:

‘According to the new science of genetics known as epigenetics, the signals from your environment are responsible for your genetic makeup far more than the DNA you were born with.’^

I love exploring what we can become.

Break the finite worldview.  We are made for infinite play.

(*William Hutchison Murray, quoted in Benjamin Hardy’s Willpower Doesn’t Work.)
(**From John O’Donohue’s To Bless the Space Between Us: In Praise of Air.)
(^From Benjamin Hardy’s Willpower Doesn’t Work.)

Pain, discomfort, shock, boredom, imposter syndrome, awkwardness, fear, being wrong, failing, ignorance, look stupid: Your avoidance of these feelings is stopping you from a life greater than your wildest imagination.*
(Ben Hardy)

There is an early adopter in each of us.

Early adopters are those who see or hear something new and, “getting it,” come on board before the mass.

We can’t be early adopters for everything but we can each be an early adopter at something significant.

The thing is, it doesn’t come without difficulty and resistance.

I have mentioned before how, when I read about Michelangelo’s unfinished sculptures, I knew I had to see them “in the stone.”

They stand in the same gallery as Michelangelo’s David, but it was they that made me want to make the journey and not the finished product of David.

For Michelangelo, beneath the surface of the marble, there lay a person.  He would stop taking away the stone when he came to their “skin.”

From “Slow Journeys in the Same Direction,” my doodle from the pictures I took of Michelangelo’s unfinished sculptures

Here is my picture of early adoption and resistance.  To find the early adopter within, we must face and overcome the resistance.

Yet everything changes when we commit, when we not only hear or see something that is meaningful to us but we also begin:

“The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too.  All sorts of things occur to help one that would never have otherwise occurred.  A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.’**

There is no other way.

We must begin.

Otherwise, you may be reading something like this in five years time and realise you have done nothing about what matters to you most of all.

Or you can take on the resistance.

(*From Benjamin Hardy’s Willpower Doesn’t Work.)
(**William Hutchison Murray, quoted in Benjamin Hardy’s Willpower Doesn’t Work.)

And why are we joyful?  Because that is who we are.  This is how the gods designed us to be.  Producers.  Makers.  Artists.  Effective.*
(Hugh Macleod)

To be given a new beginning or a start-over is something very special.

To come to the realisation that each of us, as a consequence of our humanity, is capable of imagining, designing and making new beginning, is to know what it is to be alive.

(*From gapingvoid’s blog: Don’t forget to enjoy the ride.)

Aware of what’s around us.  Present.  Seeing things clearly, hearing them as if for the first time. […] Seeking a state of awake seems like a worthy quest.  And when we find it, it’s worth cherishing.**
(Seth Godin)

The ability to say yes and no well to the challenges and opportunities requires us to have clarity about who we are and what we want to be about.

It’s hard in an increasingly distracting world and it’s becoming harder … and there isn’t an app to help us.  By all means, let’s use the technology, but alongside this, we need to develop “unwired” skills and disciplines that allow us to listen, to be aware, to know.  The things that will release our imaginations in a different way:

‘The imagination is an essential tool of the mind, a fundamental way of thinking, an indispensable means of becoming and remaining human.’^

Imagination makes possible the creative act of turning information into knowledge into understanding into wisdom.

It opens up human playfulness as a means of proceeding, something the functional-first dimension of technology leaves behind:

‘when utility rules, adults lose something essential in the capacity to think; they lose the free curiosity that occurs in the open, felt-fingering space of play’.^^

(*The Pioneers, Let your yeah be yeah and your no be no now.)
(From Seth Godin’s blog: Simply awake.)
(^Ursula Le Guin, quoted in Maria Popova’s Brain Pickings: Redeeming the Imagination.)
(^^From Richard Sennett’s The Craftsman.  The felt-fingering refers to children playing with felt.)

Every life is precious.

Because of the wonderful things he does –
We’re off to see the Wizard, the wonderful Wizard of Oz.*

Dorothy and her companions were to make their journey to the Wizard of Oz because they thought he could help them.

To know why and how we do the things we do really matters.

It takes time, questioning and ongoing reflection but it can be the most liberating thing that we can do.

It is what Dorothy and her friends were going to discover about themselves.

Towards focusing on our because, Ben Hardy’s five means of forcing our function to a higher level are helpful.

Figure out how to invest more of yourself in what you do.

Use the expectations of your environment to hold you accountable.

Increase the consequences of failure.

Do things that are more difficult.

Change things, do things differently, rather than same old same old.

Each of these will help us feel the real because because because because because.

(*From the 1939 movie The Wizard of Oz.)
(**See Benjamin Hardy’s Willpower Doesn’t Work.)

Here’s another saying from somewhere in my childhood: Every day in every way I am getting better and better.

I wish I knew at half my age what I know now.

As I thought about this, regret gave way to gladness: I know many things now that I didn’t know at 29 or 30.

It means I’m still moving, still growing.

Agility is important to keep moving in this journey.

Open minds, open hearts and open wills develop our agility.

Read another book.

Ask someone to tell you about the things that are important in their lives.

Do something you haven’t done before.

Open your mind open your heart open your will keep moving …

This is not it.

The gravitational pull holding you down is the struggle you must learn to transcend.*
(Ben Hardy)

To the human nothing is as it first appears.

When the World Wide Web appeared we came upon blue words.  Phrases and sentences that, if clicked on – whoah, took us somewhere else.

Everything is blue.

Perhaps you were hyperklinked here from my other blog, but people, places, ideas, objects, smells, tastes, sounds and more transport us to new possibilities and experiences.

Transcendence means “to climb beyond.”

We are a transcendent species.

This is not it.

This is not who I am.

My next contribution will be …

(*From Benjamin Hardy’s Willpower Doesn’t Work.)