One cannot help being suspicious that often the attraction of the computer-man idea is a flight from life and from humane experience into the mechanical and the purely cerebral.*
Erich Fromm.

The more specific the vision, the more clear the path and the more potent the motivation. You choose your purpose and then you give your whole soul to that purpose. In due time, you’ll transform.**
Ben Hardy

My gut feeling is that the things that will move us into the possibility of being the most human we can be are likely to be more low-tech than high-tech: journals and pens, books, places of silence, spaces for making, disciplines and habits, mutual relationships.

if we get these things right then the high-tech stuff supports us and works for us, get it wrong and the technology crushes our less developed interior.

*From Erich Fromm’s The Revolution of Hope;
**From Ben Hardy’s Personality Isn’t Permanent.

There is … a peculiar modern phenomenon that might best be described as a culture of competitive trauma. In recent times, the touching human longing for sympathy, that impulse to have our suffering recognized and validated, has grown distorted by a troubling compulsion for broadcast-suffering and comparative validity. Personhoods are staked on the cards dealt and not the hands played, as if we evolved the opposable thumbs of our agency for nothing.
Maria Popova

We can be pushed around by our unhelpful thoughts and feelings, believing the only thing left to us is to distract ourselves in some way.

Of course, these thoughts and feelings are our own lives trying too protect us, but in a really unhelpful way.

We end up a victim forgetting our opposable thumbness, our imaginations often being the first victim of anxiety and stress.

Here’s one way to become an agent rather than victim:

Write the thought down in a succinct way

Sit with this thought a moment and feel the discomfort or pain it brings.

Write it out again, with the words “I am having the thought that … ” in front of it; pause and notice any difference.

Then write the second sentence again, perhaps in a coloured pencil, with the words “I am noticing that … ” in front of it; pause and notice any difference.

If this has been helpful, what will have happened is that you will have unhooked somewhat from the thought, which is helpful because a thought isn’t how things are, but simply a thought.

If you would like to take this further, try some mindful doodling.

One way is to turn the unhelpful thought into its positive and helpful opposite. This will become the text for your doodle.

Doodling because we can all do it and the idea is that it only has to take a few minutes.

And it’s still your thought, which is why this is a valid thing to try.

Write this out where you want it to sit on your sheet of paper. Perhaps along the top or bottom, top left, bottom right in a box?

I pencil a lot of my doodles out first of all, just to play with the basic idea.

You can also work with the original thought in an ironic or satirical way, which also allows you to be the agent rather than victim.

Have some fun along the way.

*From Maria Popova’s The Marginalian: The Good Luck of Your Bad Luck: Marcus Aurelius on the Stoic Strategy for Weathering Life’s Waves and Turning Suffering into Strength.

They don’t know what they don’t know, until they find out they don’t know it.*
Dave Trott

A deep life is a good life.**
Cal Newport

Georges Perec spent three days in October 1974 exhausting all he could see in a place in Paris.

He wasn’t focusing on the buildings and monuments as a tourist would, but what around and between these:

A 96 goes by. An 87 passes by. An 86 passes by. A 70 passes by. A “Grenelle Interline” truck passes by. Lull. There is no one at the bus stop.

A 63 passes by. A 96 passes by.

A young woman is sitting on a bench, facing “La demure” tapestry gallery; she is smoking a cigarette.

There are three mopeds parked on the sidewalk in front of the café.^

Even so, I can only imagine Perec missed many things, including days four, five and six. And what if I were to replicate his experiment today?

There is so much to be observed and Perec captured these three days in such a way so that I am able to see what he was seeing almost forty eight years later.

We may not want to spend three days observing a public space in the town or city where we live, but Perec’s experiment is valuable providing the basic means and practice to be open to where we are: a situation we inhabit, a person we meet, a problem that challenges us.

*From Dave Trott’s One + One = Three;
**From Cal Newport’s Deep Work;
^From Georges Perec’s An Attempt at Exhausting a Place in Paris.

it’s a book about making something new out of the old about using what’s in your life now to make up the next part of your life*
Jean Clough

I need this encouragement.

The old body is creaking: neck, fingers, back, feet, hearing.

If I were to focus on the state of the old body, I would think that life was reducing:

We have separated soul from experience, become totally taken up with the outside world and allow the interior life to shrink.**

There’s another part of us that is capable of ongoing renewal:

outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day^.

Our lives are full of so many astonishing elements: bringing these out forms my work with all kinds of people towards being able to imagine more

Our inner lives have much to teach us, and:

There is no end to learning.^^

*Jean Clough, from Mary Ruth Broz and Barbara Flynn’s Midwives of an Unnamed Future;
**From John O’Donohue’s Divine Beauty:
^2 Corinthians 4:16;
^^Robert Schumann, from Steven Isserlis’ Robert Schumann’s Advice to Young Musicians.

To be fully engaged, we must be physically energised, emotionally connected, mentally focused and spiritually aligned with a purpose beyond our immediate self-interest.*
Tony Schulz and Jim Loehr

 clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. Bear with one another and, if anyone has a complaint against another, forgive each other**
The Apostle Paul

Humans have an amazing wardrobe and get to try all kinds of clothes on every day.

*From Jim Loehr and Tony Schulz’s The Power of Full Engagement;
**Colossians 3:12-13.

To follow your gift is a calling to a wonderful adventure of discovery. Some of the deepest longing in you is the voice of your gift. The gift calls you to embrace it, not to be afraid of it.*
John O’Donohue

Instead of asking yourself, “What can I know?” ask yourself, “What at this moment am I meant to know?”**
Austin Kleon quoting W.H. Auden

Don’t expect to remain found when you follow your gift.

It is more likely that you will become lost more often than not, coming upon things you didn’t know you would delight in if had you thought of the gift as supplying you with a road map.

If there is no lostness, no surprise, no incompetence, no morphing, it may be that you haven’t come upon our gift yet.

*From John O’Donohue’s Eternal Echoes;
**From Austin Kleon’s blog: Keep calm and make ugly art, quoting W. H. Auden.

The challenge is to find a way of life that will be in harmony with your gifts and needs.*
John O’Donohue

This is the pleasure of limits, the fun of play. Not doing what we want, but doing what we can with what is given.**
Ian Bogost

I add milk, or some alternative, to my oats in the morning to make my porridge. A small amount of oats then becomes a hearty breakfast.

Reading the thoughts of others, being attentive on a walk to what is present all around, these are the liquids the contents of our lives require.

More input: we all need to give ourselves the chance to be encouraged every day.

*From John O’Donohue’s Benedictus;
**From Ian Bogost’s Play Anything.

indeed (adv.)
c. 1600, a contraction into one word of the prepositional phrase in dede “in fact, in truth, in reality” (early 14c.), from Old English dæd “a doing, act, action, event” (see deed (n.)).

In-idea to in-deed: the all-important journey.

Today the funeral of my father-in-law Derek takes place, and his family and friends will be gathering to remember and give thanks for a life that was quietly full of so many things, and most of all, his family.

I’ve just discovered that the national flower of Ukraine is the sunflower.

We’re going to be connecting this to our 2022 sunflower festival for the housing estate we live on.

It will also link in to another initiative being planned that I’ll share with you as soon as I am able to.

The great thing about sunflowers is that they’ll grow virtually everywhere.