Resistance’s goal is not to wound or disable. Resistance aims to kill. Its target is the epicentre of our being: our genius, our soul, the unique and priceless gift we were put on this earth to give that no one else has but us. Resistance means business.*
Steven Pressfield

Often, when something goes wrong, it is the small acts of self-care that we abandon first – even when they are the very things that have the power to heal us.**
William Seighart

The higher the stakes the greater
the resistance – coming at us from beyond and
within, so we’ll definitely
mess up, get hurt, doubt ourselves, and even
give up, and some have almost
been destroyed by it so that
they hurt everything around them.

A lack of self-care is doing
resistance’s work for it –
If you see a friend in a similar place, you
wouldn’t walk away but help them to get back up;
You don’t write them off, so
why don’t you give yourself a hand, some
self-compassion, another chance.

This can look a lot like journaling, which
helps us separate the instructive from the destructive,
Re-arming us for another attempt at
bringing into the world the
“unique and priceless” that only we can;
We have already lost the gifts of so many,
We don’t want to lose yours.

Faithfulness is our response to resistance,
Faithfulness being playful with who we are and what we have,
Faithfulness that begets perseverance;
If there’s one thing that resistance
struggles with, it’s perseverance:
Here you come again,
And I’m cheering you on.

*Steven Pressfield’s Do the Work;
**William Seighart’s The Poetry Pharmacy.

So I finally figured out what’s great about this. Getting knocked on my ass has made me humble as hell. It’s been years since I called for help. It’s been years since I was open to advice.*
Derek Sivers

Hierarchy is not just what we do, it is who we are.**
Matthew Syed

Humility is a choice in a
world of hierarchies,^ to
see ourselves and to see
others more accurately, not only
as we are, but as we may
become, meaning humility is not
about decrease but increase.

*Derek Sivers’ Hell Yeah or No;
**Matthew Syed’s Rebel Ideas;
^Matthew Syed describes two sorts of hierarchies: dominance and privilege – humility is alive and well in the latter.

I believe in finding what I didn’t know I was looking for.*
Austin Kleon

To follow your gift is a calling to a wonderful adventure of discovery. Some of the deepest longings in you is the voice of your gift. The gifts calls you to embrace it.**
John O’Donohue

I hope that you never
know everything about yourself, and that
the joy of this pursuit will
never be lost to you;
Discovering more about yourself will lead
to more discoveries out there, whilst the more
you uncover out there, the more you’ll
uncover in yourself –
That should keep you
busy for a while.

*Austin Kleon’s blog: Spontaneity is learning and browsing is research;
**John O’Donohue’s Eternal Echoes.

The challenge is to find a way of life in harmony with your gifts and needs.*
John O’Donohue

Are you Successful when you do this?
Is it Intuitive to you?
Do you Grow as a result?
Does it meet a Need in you –
Then you’ve found the SIGN
you are looking for.

*John O’Donohue’s Benedictus.

a sense of humour is the only divine quality of man*
Arthur Schopenhauer

Learn what is to be taken seriously and laugh at the rest.**
Hermann Hesse

I need to laugh
at myself far more
often, and begin to
recover from my
seriousness malady.

*Jean Houston’s The Wizard of Us;
**James Clear’s 3-2-1 newsletter: How to help someone, the value of bad luck, and rewarding competence.

Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power.*
Seneca

The ability …
… to work hard
… to say no
… to practice good habits and set boundaries
… to train and prepare
… to avoid temptations and provocations
… to keep your emotions in check
… to endure painful difficulties.*
Ryan Holiday

What the point of all that discipline?

Freedom to become and,
Out of our becoming,
To give.

To do what you want, when you want,
How you want, for whom you want:
I and Thou,**
I-in-Now.^

*Ryan Holiday’s Discipline is Destiny;
**Martin Buber’s I and Thou;
^Otto Scharmer’s Theory U.

Whatever you value most in your life can always be traced back to some jumble of chance occurrences you couldn’t possibly have planned for, and that you certainly can’t alter retrospectively now.*
Oliver Burkeman

There’s always something just beneath the surface, the element that most people simply don’t notice. But we can if we choose.**
Seth Godin

Someone happened to loan me this book,
I bumped into and had a conversation with this person,
It turned out that someone saw my blog and passed it to a friend …
Again and again, happenstance has shaped my life in
larger and smaller ways –
At no point did I sit down and map all of this out,
But one thing I did determine to do,
As often as I was aware of what was happening, was to
look beneath the surface, to go
deeper, to open and explore the
randomness, towards making something from it,
Which will hopefully lead me into more happenstance.

(I begin my day journalling, for which one of my sources is
last year’s journal entry, and
it just so happened that I read tomorrow’s entry
rather than today’s by mistake – happenstance in action –
So perhaps these thoughts might help you in
some random way today.)

*Oliver Burkeman’s Four Thousand Weeks;
**Seth Godin’s blog: The things you can’t see.

What you can plan
is too small
for you to live …

To be human
is to become visible
while carrying
what is hidden
as a gift to others.*
David Whyte

Today, if there’s something I don’t know, it’s almost certainly because I haven’t cared enough to find out … Now that information is widely and freely available, our sense of agency around knowledge needs to change. It pays to acknowledge that this is a choice, and to be responsible for it. What else have we chosen not to know?**
Seth Godin

Beyond the plan
for today
there is a story,
One that eats
information for breakfast and
turns it into wisdom,
Transforming you into a giver –
Maker of difference for
someone, somewhere.

*David Whyte’s Crossing the Unknown Sea: What To Remember When Waking;
**Seth Godin’s blog: Willfully uninformed.

I have seen your greatness
The strength of your will
What it took this far
Is what will take you further still*
Lemn Sissay

learning is about becoming incompetent on the way to getting better**
Seth Godin

If you got this far, you
can go further, though, be warned, the greatest
resistance is within you, and whilst your
competence tastes sweet in this moment, your greater
possibility lies in your incompetence, your
getting lost, becoming
a beginner again.

Don’t assume this is as far
as you can go – the only
way you’ll know how much
distance there is in you is when you
happen, and, when you happen,
Things will happen around you.

Happening changes the story.

The enemy is Resistance. The enemy is our chattering brain, which, if we give it so much as a nanosecond, will start producing , alibis, transparent self-justifications, and a million reasons why we can’t/shouldn’t/won’t do what we know we need to do. Start before you’re ready.^

*Lemn Sissay’s let the light pour in;
**Seth Godin’s blog: In search of competence;
^Steven Pressfield’s Do the Work; I was reflecting on the resistance when these words appeared in the next book I picked up this morning.

If you really consider differences of opinion and dissenting views and different experiential bases, what you get is a richer and more accurate view of the world.*
Carmen Medina

Here lies a man who was able to surround himself with men far cleverer than himself.**
Andrew Carnegie

The same idea or thought or opinion repeated
over and over
isn’t smart:
The smartest person in the room is
the room;^
I love it when ideas resonate –
How people in different fields can be
saying similar things to each other about life, but,
Better still when they add to or subtract from or supplant –
Life is more than complicated:
Complex systems create unexpected and
unpredictable outputs. They’re probabilistic and
unstable, not deterministic
the way we expect.^^

*Matthew Syed’s Rebel Ideas;
**gapingvoid’s blog: Should We Bring Back the Jester;
^Part of the subtitle of David Warren’s Too Big to Know;
^^Seth Godin’s This is Strategy.