A loss teaches humility and resilience. Failure expands our capacity to take risks, to try hard things, to persevere even when success isn’t guaranteed. And it’s only in defeat that we learn what truly matters to us.*
Bernadette Jiwa

The important stuff has no finish line.**
James Clear

This has not been easy but
you are keeping going, not only
pushing on with what you must do –
Seeing it develop as a result – but
also growing a stronger self –
Heart, soul, and mind stronger;
Reflecting on failures, picking yourself up and
starting over are a badge of honour and
nobility and enlightenment:
You are becoming relentless.

By the way,
I’m taking a few weeks away from posting thin|silence, but
I can’t not do it, so I have prepared and scheduled
a little thin|silence for each day –
Thank you for following.

*Bernadette Jiwa’s Briefly blog: You Can Learn a Lot By Losing;
**James Clear’s 3-2-1 newsletter: On balancing gratitude and ambition, the best things in life, and feeling like you have enough.

The feeling of being from an alien world passes after a few hours or a few days. Thereafter, we will spend a good space of time at our mundane life, fueled by the energy we gathered on our journey to home and practising interim union with soul through the practice of solitude.*
Clarissa Pinkola Estés

We are both the authors and the actors. We can shape the plot but not fully. We can toss aside the script but not always. We live at the intersection of free will and circumstance.**
Daniel Pink

You have discovered or uncovered
some astonishing truths about who you are
and what you can do –
These have always been there, but you have seen them now
because you have made your approach
from a different direction.^

As exciting as these revelations are,
They begin to wain when you
reimmerse yourself in the ordinary-everyday,
Where you have to figure out how to employ
your new self-knowledge in the world of
“this is just the way it is.”

No myth or guide for the way has ever said that
this will be easy – that it’s taken this long to come upon this
new self-knowledge is evidence of this – but
what circumstance and script respect is
the person of solitude consistently growing
in their integrity,^^ wholeness, and perseverance.

*Clarissa Pinkola Estés’ Women Who Run With the Wolves;
**Daniel Pink’s The Power of Regret;
^My dreamwhispering work is one kind of different direction – contact me at geoffreybaines@gmail.com to find out more;
^^By integrity, I mean connectedness to self, others, Earth, and god – if you believe.

The fairy godmother replied that true magic is to help each thing become its best and most free self.*
Rebecca Solnit

Love God and love every species as yourself. This is the deep challenge of this moment in time.**
Philip Newell

Near to where I once lived in Edinburgh
stands an eight hundred year old oak wood;
Walking amongst these astonishing witnesses
of time, I found myself in awe and humbled.

It is estimated that there are almost
fifty thousand species of animal and
plant presently threatened by extinction –
Some estimates are in nine figures, including insects.

We don’t have to be religious, philosophical, or
activist to deeply appreciate the home in
which we live and move and have our being,
simply an explorer of our profound humanness.

*Rebecca Solnit’s Cinderella Liberator;
**Philip Newell’s The Great Search.

I think if anyone can catch the content of this new myth, it will have to be those who are awakened to the imaginative life. It will have to be the artists and poets, and certainly the dancers.*
Joseph Campbell

Just like you,
I tell myself a story as
I move through the things
my life contains and brings me to.

Just like you,
because this story both iterates my past and
informs my future, I can properly think of it
as my myth.

Just like you,
If it should leave me with some unrealised
potential or unrequited longing, if it should be
passionless or joyless, then I must reinvent.

Just like you, I should feed and free
my imagination rather than wait for
things “out there” to change,
Though, unlike you, this is different for each of us.

And that’s exciting.

*Jean Houston’s A Mythic Life; Joseph Campbell’s wife Jean Erdman was a dancer and choreographer.

The fairy godmother replied that true magic is to help each thing become its best and most free self.*
Rebecca Solnit

We have become a generation of unstorytellers, which is a reason we’re a generation of malcontents.**
Bruce Feiler

The text don’t do it,
The social media post can’t hack it,
The ancients would tell their stories
around family and villages hearths –
Of course, I’m romanticising the past
somewhat, but if you were asked to
tell your story, where would you begin,
Which challenges would you include,
Deepest pain, greatest joy,
Triumphs, hopes?

Why not try writing it down –
Not in some epic- or saga-like way,
But a few lines each day, as you prepare for
what the day will hold.

We shape ourselves as we write.^

*Rebecca Solnit’s Cinderella Liberator;
**Bruce Feiler’s Life Is In the Transitions;
^Ross MacDonald, from Peter Turchi’s A Muse and A Maze.

A daemon is a calling, obsession, a source of lasting and sometimes manic energy … when you are looking for a vocation, you are looking for a daemon … You are trying to find that tension or problem that arouses great waves of moral, spiritual and relational energy.*
David Brooks

It’s all a conversation
Between night and day
Between mist and clarity
Darkness and light**
Lemn Sissay

There it is:
The problem that stirs all your energies^ –
Now you see it, you cannot
unsee.

Yes, it frustrates you
like crazy, and you fail
more times than makes sense,
But you are more alive than ever.

It’s not perfect, but
this imperfection animates you,
So you are engaged and creative
between this and that.

*David Brooks’ The Second Mountain;
**Lemn Sissay’s let the light pour in;
^What is this for you? If you’ve never written it down, try doing this. What is wanting to emerge or unfold?.

A relationship in which you unquestionably have the upper hand at all times is no relationship at all.*
Oliver Burkeman

Don’t chase success. Instead chase new and interesting ways of solving other people’s problems.**
gapingvoid

Dominance and success at any cost
always comes at a cost for someone.

On the other hand, being a servant of goodness and
rightness makes everyone richer.

The virtue of a person is measured not by his outstanding efforts but by his everyday behaviour.^

*Oliver Burkeman’s Meditations for Mortals;
**gapingvoid’s blog: Take something ordinary and elevate it;
^Blaise Pascal, from Ryan Holiday’s Right Thing, Right Now.

How you work with your brain – give it nourishment, ideas, therapy, along with spiritual, mental, and emotional practices and input – radically influences what your brain can and will do.*
Jean Houston

This is a human search. Being there when someone is looking for you. The first step is being the sort of resource that people care enough about to look for. And the second is being findable.**
Seth Godin

Today is another opportunity
to become the person someone else needs to
find, so
we prepare for this –
Not only in the skills that we possess but also
the person we are – and
then we stand out in the open so
that we may be found by the many
or the one.

*Jean Houston’s The Wizard of Us;
**Seth Godin’s blog: Spines out.

Writing in your journal is more powerful than simple meditation for the same reason that writing down your goals is more powerful than leaving them in your head.*
Ben Hardy

Do not become fixated on your premise. We rarely know where we’re going.**
Robert McKee

One thing that writing does for
our thoughts and feelings is
to bring the journey into focus –
And things can change on the way,
Especially us.

*Ben Hardy’s Willpower Doesn’t Work;
**Robert McKee‘s newsletter: Discovering Your Meaning.

There’s only one age: alive.*
Agnes Varda

… there’s plenty of life in you yet –
Indeed, if you believe it,
the greatest adventures are ahead of you.

And if you are at the other end of
this age equation, know that you have plenty of wisdom already,
And we need to see through your eyes.

*Austin Kleon’s blog: A Quote a Day.