The gift of boredom

In my experience, boredom is often close to epiphany, to the great idea … boredom is boredom until it’s not.*
Nick Cave

In a world fearful of boredom, cluttered with the stimulation of
endless noise and busyness,
Boredom comes to us as space,
Space for all kinds of possibilities to come to heart and
to mind.

*Nick Cave and Seán O’Hagan’s Faith, Hope and Carnage.

The grail

But the myth also offers powerful, soul-changing ways of healing the wasteland in ourselves as well as in our society. For we are all the wounded Fisher King, each one of us is Parsifal, and every human being is a Grail of the most sacred life.*
Jean Houston

What had to be done here was to lead the particular person in her concrete situation to the unique and singular task of her life.**
Viktor Frankl

Yes, the grail is a myth –
That’s the point, and the myth is
your meaning, containing what you require to
make you whole, whilst also contributing to
the wholeness of others;
Viktor Frankl would probably call our particular “grailness” our
responsibility to life, our singularity –
Name it, write it down, develop it,
Play it every day.

*Jean Houston’s A Mythic Life;
**Viktor Frankl’s The Doctor and the Soul.

You too

To share your weakness without caring what others think is a kind of superpower.*
Arthur Brooks

When you admit that something went wrong, your audience is thinking, Wow, me too! I make that kind of mistake all the time. We’re more alike than I thought.**
Lisa Cron

One thing for sure is that we all have weaknesses,
We all make mistakes;
Of course, the first person we need to admit these to are ourselves,
Be a little more empathetic towards ourselves,
Because empathy is one of the things that occurs when we share
our stories with others –
You too, I thought it was only me
And what we want to do is learn and grow.

We’re in this together,
We’re human.

*Arthur Brooks’ From Strength to Strength;
**Lisa Cron’s Story or Die.

Sticking at it

Commitment gets us through frustration, and frustration is the partner of learning.*
Seth Godin

Whatever pain you can’t get rid of, whatever joy you can’t contain, make it your joyful offering.**
Susan Cain

Learning isn’t easy, but
the pain and frustration may be telling you that
you’re exactly where you need to be, and
something important is about to be born
through you.

Values which are realised in creative action we should like to call ‘creative’ values.^

*Seth Godin’ blog: While standing on one foot;
**Susan Cain’s Bittersweet;
^Viktor Frankl’s The Doctor and the Soul.

Just a doodle 158

In Japan, there is the term wabi-sabi. Wabi-sabi posits that the beauty of an object is found in its imperfection. In direct contrast to the western perspective which tends to conflate perfection with beauty, wabi-sabi celebrates transience, individuality, and the flawed nature of a thing. These are the qualities that make it unique, genuine, and beautiful.*
Ryder Carroll


*Ryder Carroll’s The Bullet Journal Method.

The “to do” list

Might be a good idea to make a list. And if you need to give it a second glance over, go for it. But remember, making the list isn’t the work. Even though it kinda feels like it.*
Gabe Anderson

Meaning is only experienced in motion.**
Donald Miller

It’s also worthwhile making sure the
right things are on the list,
That we’re not completing a whole raft of tasks that
are all about avoiding what matters most;
The more important the actions, the more
time and space and silence we need In order to
reflect on what are the right things for us to do –
What we have to say “yes” to, and, maybe more importantly,
What we have to say “no” to.

The list can also hide the unwelcome truth that
we do not know what to do with our lives, so
more lists, more busyness, more noise,
Fearful of silence, fearful of being;
What we find is that the silence is
not silent at all – rather it is replete with
better hopes and ideas and possibilities that come
to us in the form of questions:
They’re how we know we are alive.

Life never ceases to put new questions to us, never permits us to come to rest … every day, every hour makes new deeds necessary and new experiences possible.^

*Gabe Anderson’s blog: He’s Making a List …;
**Donald Miller’s Hero On a Mission;
^Viktor Frankl’s The Doctor and the Soul.

One

The word ‘Yoga’ is derived from the Sanskrit root ‘Yuj’, meaning ‘to join’ or ‘to yoke’ or ‘to unite’.

Life as an art and art as a game – as action for its own sake, without thought of gain or of loss, praise or blame – is the key, then, to the turning of living itself into a yoga, and art into the means to such a life.*
Joseph Campbell

The finite player competes against,
The infinite player plays with;
One serves division, the other
oneness –
Life-in-all-its-fullness is
a journey from the finite to the infinite.

*Joseph Campbell’s Myths to Live By.

Edging it

Push to your edges and discover what you can do to rescue the little gods who are caught in lives that will render them impotent to their own enormous gifts.*
Jean Houston

The value of an effective rite is that it leaves everyone to his own thoughts, which dogma and definitions only confuse.**
Joseph Campbell

In every child there exists an amazing story that
may never be lived;
Perhaps, if we push against our perceived boundaries,
If we wonder every day where our limits are whilst
we hone our gifts through imaginative action,
We might yet help unlock these tales.

*Jean Houston’s A Mythic Life;
**Joseph Campbell’s Myths To Live By.

The old work-life balance thing

Work at its best is the arrival in an outer form of something intensely inner and personal, and the art of working itself – a bridge between the public and private, a bridge of experience which can be an agony and ecstasy to cross.*
David Whyte

Everybody said you should serve a cause larger than yourself, but nobody tells you how.**
David Brooks

We all want to spend our days usefully, for our work
to be meaningful and to make a difference, but
even in the 21st century, when you would think this would be
more possible than ever before in history, the number of life-numbing jobs
proliferate, and,
The lines between work and life have to be sharply drawn.

The job we want may be evading us, but,
If we were to spin this around, inside each of us
there lies the work we want to do, wrapped
in a unique mix of talents and abilities and passion and more;
Once we discover and begin to find ways to experiment with and
express these, then boundaries begin to
dissolve, and we enter the ecstasy
and the agony of the difference we can make, which cannot
be held within an either/or or this/that, but
within a rhythm – as in poetry or
song.

*David Whyte’s Crossing the Unknown Sea;
**David Brooks’ The Second Mountain.